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One in three victims of family violence are male

Men's stories

MEN’S PERSONAL STORIES

If you are a male victim of family violence – intimate partner violence, violence from other family members, child abuse, elder abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of family violence and abuse – this page is available for you to tell your anonymous story. Please click here to tell your own story. If you feel like you need support, please click here. Stories are moderated to prevent the posting of spam, so it might take a little while for your story to appear on this page.

 

Tony's personal story

I was in a relationship for approximately 3 years and whilst initially the time was fun however the day following an elaborate commitment ceremony the real inner beast of my female partner appeared. She was no longer fun to be around and through the foggy glasses I was wearing until that time I realised she was an alcoholic, control freak with severe mental problems, financially controlling me with my own money and the worst had become apparent, she had cut me off from my family.

Prior to our meeting I had suffered a stroke so her initial modus operandi was to punch me in the back of of my head. She had also manipulated me to the extent I had sold all my furniture, continued rolling over new cars into even newer cars, purchase expensive and lavish furnishings for ourselves and her aged parents and a car for one of her daughters. She then began to destruct all the remaining furnishings I had, the head punches became face punches, scratches and bites. I would barricade myself in the second bedroom, place the computer desk against the inside door to give me protection only for her to prise the door open, push the computer desk aside and the bashes would commence, with foul language and threats.

It was not until the police attended the 4th or 5th occassion and pleaded I support their AVO application I realised my only way to escape that life. As a result of the AVO she was placed on a good behaviour bond with community hours however within 2 weeks she had breached that AVO and after it became known she had consumed 3 bottles of wine she proceeded to destruct more of my furnishings then when I rejected her sexual advances she began punching me in the face and then held a knife to my face.

During a struggle she bit into my wrist and despite my requests to let go I snapped and punched her in the face. Police were called, I was made to be the cause however she was charged with breaching the AVO and released on extended good behaviour bond with additional orders. Finally I was rid of that woman, and her abuse and lucky enough to have moved on and married to the most beautiful woman in the world. Good has come from evil, I have found my soulmate and that part of my life is now distant.

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