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One in three victims of family violence are male

Men's stories

MEN’S PERSONAL STORIES

If you are a male victim of family violence – intimate partner violence, violence from other family members, child abuse, elder abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of family violence and abuse – this page is available for you to tell your anonymous story. Please click here to tell your own story. If you feel like you need support, please click here. Stories are moderated to prevent the posting of spam, so it might take a little while for your story to appear on this page.

 

Corey's personal story

In 2016 I met a young lady I thought was the one. She explained how her young life had been filled with abuse and tragedy. I felt sorry for her and what she and her two children had been through. A few weeks after first meeting her things started to look up, we had our own home and her two children were happy. Then all of a sudden things started to go pear shaped. Child safety came in and removed her two children. I never understood why they did. She always blamed her father for it who was not around. I tried my best to support her with what was happening. One day I noticed the heavy drinking. The odd behaviour and I simply asked her if everything was OK. I was met with a coffee cup being thrown at me and a world of very hateful words. I tried to leave and then I was thrown a pregnancy test, it was positive, she told me if I leave she will kill the baby. I stayed.

When my son was born he was removed at birth. I never got to meet him. I tried to leave again and I was met with police serving me paperwork for domestic violence. Even with proof of not being in the same house as her when I tried to leave the police did not believe me. So I filed for a cross order. Several times she breached the order and yet police simply did not care to investigate. When I returned to the house to collect my personal belongings I was hit with something hard. I remember waking up to her on top of me with a knife at my throat telling me to do as I'm told or else. So I did as I was told to do in fear I would lose my life. I again tried to get police involved and yet again they failed to listen. Instead breaching me because she had a bleeding eczema sore on her chest.

She fell pregnant again and the same thing if I left she would kill the baby. It wasn't until July this year that she woke me up with a thump in the head from something hard which left me in a daze. She took off in her car quickly. I notified police about it. She cleared out the medicine cabinet including my prescription pain medication. Police didn't want to hear it. At around 10:30 that night police bashed on my door to take up with me about my phone call earlier that day and then they left. Police returned at 12:30am bashing on my door again. They searched my house only to find that what my ex had claimed was false.

Today I am still fighting in court to have conditions changed to zero contact however the ex cannot be bothered to turn up. 3 months of stuffing around just for conditions to be changed and they still get adjourned. She still continues to stalk me, harass me, and threaten me. Police have failed again.

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