I am shocked and concerned with the amount of men’s stories shared here on his site. It is difficult to speak the truth, more concerning is when your confidence is at an all time low and self doubt so high, that the people around you will turn their back, and others take full advantage of your situation.

So having children with an emotionally abusive partner, to then spit and re-partner 2 years later, caused all sorts of complications, and although my new partner had not been abusive in anyway for over 12 months, that all changed as she was dragged into a messy legal battle.

This led to all kinds of accusations and FVO’s, etc. Which although I can see the benefit in legitimate situations, is clearly a simple way to continue inflicting abuse upon their male victim. And unfortunately in my case, the physical abuse, even being stabbed with a kitchen knife, still left me being arrested for being the victim of such abuse and mentioning it on social media, breaching the FVO. Keeping in mind that I believed I never instigated such altercations, it’s almost impossible to explain to others why such an incident would occur without somehow contributing to it. Strangely it’s the length of time the abuse goes on for that feeds that lack of understanding from family and friends.

Moreso sometimes people don’t realise the source of their pain, hence the abuse of those they “love” just as those abused, if used to that sort of treatment, skews the meaning of one caring or loving them, and the cycle continues.

It eludes me in this day and age, where equality of women is so strong that somehow a woman couldn’t be just as good/bad if not better/worse than a man in inflicting abuse to their partners!

Remember this is not a male v female issue, just that the same resources and laws should be applied to both sexes equally.

There needs to be willing prosecution of fraudulent statements if the evidence exists.

Be well, accept the past, to learn and give you strength to live abuse-free and never generalise because just like men, not all women are abusers of family violence.