John's personal story

My partner of over 3 years constantly screams at me and punches me when she doesn't get what she wants. Threats from her are constant. Drink driving stalking me. Phone calls and texts at all hours making threats and pics of self-harming. Harassing myself, my parents and mutual friends. She even made a complaint that I raped her. What makes this worse is that she was a police officer of 11 years before finally being released due to PTSD. I applied 3 times for an AVO and was overturned each time by the magistrate. Fortunately for myself she lives in the area command that she worked in and all the staff knew her well. Still, I was put though the embarrassment of an investigation and off the record several officers she worked with knew that it was a bogus complaint by her.

She would not allow me to do anything by myself. I had to account for every second of the day. Constant accusations made that I was unfaithful with “her” friends. I am also a survivor of multiple assaults including sexual by both males and females. I myself have PTSD from a workplace incident which has been so far 4 years in the court system. I also have bipolar disorder which has made my life an utter nightmare. Unfortunately when a complaint is made against a male it is typical to be dragged off in handcuffs. I was lucky that her previous work colleagues knew her well and I have no police history at all. Where is my protection in all of this????