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MEN’S PERSONAL STORIES

If you are a male victim of family violence – intimate partner violence, violence from other family members, child abuse, elder abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of family violence and abuse – this page is available for you to tell your anonymous story. Please click here to tell your own story. If you feel like you need support, please click here. Stories are moderated to prevent the posting of spam, so it might take a little while for your story to appear on this page.

 

Steven's personal story

Again I feel sorry for all of the men out there that suffer this WITHOUT HELP. It happened to me last weekend again. I have to tread on eggshells around my own home, careful not not agitate or start a conversation that may make my partner explode in verbal and threatening actions.

On the weekend of the 27th September my partner was asleep (4.30pm) on the bed. I was sitting on the bed. Our eldest son walked past and said, "are you OK?". It woke my partner and she exploded in a rage, bad-mouthing our son for waking her up. I tried to calm her down but there was nothing I could say or do, but it escalated and her screaming and rage increased, to the stage where I was screaming back.

The next thing I know the police were at the door arresting me and placing me in the back of the van. She claimed I said to her, "I will kill you!". It's a false accusation but it worked in her favour. There was nothing I could say to the police that would convince them that she was making this up. I was charged and an AVO was placed on me. I was not to have contact with her or go to my home for 3 weeks until court.

But before I was even released from the police station she was contacting me saying she was sorry. She even tried to cancel the AVO. Before I left the station THE POLICE WERE NOT INTERESTED NOR DID THEY CARE. They proceeded. I was released at the station, and my son was told to pick Dad up and bring him home - against the AVO order. I'm still here, 3 days later and all is good for the meantime anyway. We had dinner that night together and she was very apologetic but the fact remains I was NOT BELIEVED. I WAS THE INSTIGATOR. I AM GUILTY EVEN IF THE OTHER PARTY ADMITS THERE'S A MISTAKE AND OVER-EXAGGERATED THE COMPLAINT.

I am in breach of the AVO but I am the breadwinner of the household, and she is trying very hard to please me NOW. But beware, there is just too much media attention to the females who falsely accuse males, and then regret their action but its too late. Damage is done. This is the 3rd time she has done this, and all time retracted the complaint, but the police don't listen. Good luck guys - its a struggle out there.

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