I was threatened with an AVO (that can be given without any judgement by police). I was threatened both physically (with knife attacks) and verbally (with a gun to kill me and my family, abusive languages, cursing, insulting me and my family) and even my job (with an AVO).

That affects my job. I had to sign a paper to commit not to come into my own house. I was kicked out of my house.

The first violent incident happened after we had prepareded dinner. We argued then she threw all my food into the trash bin. Shen then grabbed my necklace and pulled my head down until the necklace was broken. I was under stress and started being defensive.

In 2008, she threatened me that she would suicide. I had done nothing (either verbally or physically). She disappeared and I had to run countless times around the campus and housing apartments of my university at night to find her. She used knives to attack and threaten me. However, people living around us never knew what happened to me. They never saw what I suffered on my body (countless scratches and psoriasis as a sign of being over-stressed) but only hers and her crying after the incidents.

If I do not follow her, she would take the kids and leave me or threaten me with an AVO to take my kids away. I need to go to work to pay our mortgage and raise our kids and I can't afford either the time or the emotion to do everything myself (she left for 2 months from Mar 12 to May 09 until I did the above to satisfy her requests).

I am homeless just outside my house (sleeping this winter in my car parking on the street), just to be close to my kids. If I do anything, she can do the above and take the kids and leave me. I can't afford that emotionally.

I am a professor at the number one university in NSW!