One in three victims of family violence are male

Service Directory

I’m male and I’m being abused.
what support is available?

This page provides a list of known services in Australia and internationally, along with a selection of generic services that might also be able to help you. We have also provided links to a selection of online resources that may be useful for male victims to read. We are aware there aren't many tailored services or resources available for male victims of family violence and abuse and are working to improve this.

Please be aware that some services might at best be unaware of the unique issues faced by male victims of family violence and at worst might even blame, shame, ridicule, minimise, disbelieve or misunderstand you. If this happens, please ask to speak to another staff member or try another service. Don't give up!

You should be aware, for example, that the MARAM Framework, which provides guidance to organisations such as 1800-RESPECT and MensLine Australia states:

“A smaller number of heterosexual, cisgender men do experience violence from cisgender female intimate partners. Professionals should exercise caution when responding to family violence where this relationship dynamic is reported. There may be potential for perpetrators and victim survivors to be misidentified where male perpetrators report or present as a victim survivor, adopting a victim stance. Male perpetrators may adopt a victim stance generally, or in relation to their experience of violent resistance from a victim survivor. Men who experience violent resistance from victim survivors (violence that responds to their own ongoing use of family violence risk behaviours, such as coercive and controlling behaviours) are not victim survivors.”

GENERAL HELP

Police - In an emergency, call 000 (or 112 from a mobile phone). The police have the power and responsibility to intervene to protect you from physical or sexual violence or stalking.

Lifeline - A crisis support and suicide prevention helpline for all people. There is no guarantee they will be able to respond appropriately to men experiencing family violence and abuse, but they might still be very useful. Lifeline provides access to 24-hour telephone counselling on one national number. Call 131 114  for the cost of a local call or go to their website at www.lifeline.org.au. Other resources can be found at lifeline.org.au/get-help.

Police Corruption - If you are a victim of police misconduct and/or abuse of judicial process, please use the appropriate link below to make a complaint. If possible identify yourself rather than making an anonymous complaint as it adds credibility. Make sure you detail all the alleged conduct, including who was involved, what occurred, where and when. If you can include supporting documentation it will be advantageous and will minimise delays in decision making. Insist upon the public interest nature of your issues, as this is the major criterion they use to determine whether to take your case. Three days after making your complaint, telephone the agency to ask for feedback.

NSW www.lecc.nsw.gov.au
VIC www.ibac.vic.gov.au/reporting-corruption/other-complaint-agencies
QLD www.ccc.qld.gov.au/complainants/matters-we-deal
SA www.icac.sa.gov.au/opi/complaint-agencies
WA www.ccc.wa.gov.au/reporting-corruption
TAS www.integrity.tas.gov.au/reporting/making-a-complaint
NT
icac.nt.gov.au/make-a-report
ACT www.aclei.gov.au/report-corruption-issue

FAMILY VIOLENCE (AUSTRALIA)

  • 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) - The National Sexual Assault, Family & Domestic Violence Counselling Line is for any Australian who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault. It is free, confidential and available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Professionally qualified, specialist counsellors will provide counselling, information, advice and referrals to relevant local services. Unfortunately the helpline is likely to be both better informed about and more utilised by female victims, and there are very few services available for them to refer male victims on to. Be prepared to "prove" you are a "genuine" victim. Call 1800 737 732 or online (internet) counselling is available at www.1800respect.org.au.

    Commonwealth Bank domestic and family violence assistance - support for customers affected by domestic and family violence. You'll have access to a Community Wellbeing Specialist who will assess your needs and help you safely manage your finances. You’ll receive ongoing specialised financial assistance if you’re experiencing financial hardship as a result of your situation. You may be referred to other services, if appropriate. commbank.com.au/support/dv-assistance.html.

    Dads in Distress - A dedicated support group of men whose immediate concern is to stem the present trend of male suicide due to the trauma of divorce or separation. This is not a family violence service, but might still be helpful to male victims where domestic violence and children are involved. Call 1300 853 437 for the cost of a local call Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. Or go to parentsbeyondbreakup.com/dids.

    Escaping Violence Payment - The Escaping Violence Payment (EVP) Program is available for people 18+ who have recently experienced family violence, have a changed living situation and are experiencing financial stress. Go to www.unitingvictas.org.au/services/family-services/family-violence-services/escaping-violence-payment to find out whether you are eligible.

    Mensline Australia - A generic helpline for all men and all relationship issues, not specifically family violence. For instant, confidential, professional, male-friendly counselling, call 1300 789 978 for the cost of a local call, 24/7, or go to their website at www.mensline.org.au. Mensline also offer a Call-Back Counsellor service, who can work with you on bigger issues than their crisis line or until you access another useful service. Unfortunately there are very few services available for them to refer male victims on to. Be prepared to "prove" you are a "genuine" victim. They have put together a good tip sheet for male victims of domestic violence, available at www.mensline.org.au/are-you-experiencing-violence-or-abuse-in-your-relationship.html.

    Men's Rights Agency (QLD) - One of the agency’s aims is to provide aid to victims of domestic violence and encourage initiatives to reduce the incidence of domestic violence. Call 07 3805 5611 or 0409 269 621 Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. Or go to their website at www.mensrights.com.au.

    NRMA domestic and family violence assistance - support for customers affected by domestic and family violence. If you’re affected by family and domestic violence, information you give NRMA about your situation will be kept private (even if you have a joint policy). They also offer to talk to you about financial support if your situation is putting stress on your finances. nrma.com.au/fdv-assistance.

  • Domestic Violence Crisis Service (ACT) - Provides 24/7 crisis intervention services to anyone who is experiencing, or has experienced, domestic and family violence. Their crisis services are provided 365 days a year and include telephone support, attendance with police at domestic and family violence incidents, access to safe emergency accommodation, safety planning and referrals to support services. Call (02) 6280 0900 or visit dvcs.org.au.

    Louisa DV Service (ACT) - A community based service that offers information, advice, support and accommodation to women, children and men who have experienced domestic or family violence. Regardless of your gender, ethnicity, and sexual orientation, their role is to support you and work with you to make it possible for you to live in safety and security. Call 02 6299 4799 or visit louisa.net.au.

  • Family Advocacy and Support Services (NSW) - a specialist family violence service that provides legal and social support services to clients affected by family violence in the family law courts. The FASS is made up of lawyers and support workers. Lawyers provide duty services to clients to assist with their family law and family violence issues. There is no cost involved with seeing a lawyer or support service from the FASS. Their lawyers are separate from other Legal Aid NSW lawyers. This means they can provide assistance even if clients are in dispute with someone who is receiving help from another Legal Aid office. Available at Sydney, Parramatta, Newcastle & Wollongong NSW. www.legalaid.nsw.gov.au/what-we-do/domestic-violence/family-advocacy-and-support-service-fass.

    Hunter Domestic Violence Support & Advisory Services Inc (Cessnock, NSW) - A 24/7 service to assist men who are or have been experiencing domestic violence. Call 02 4990 9609 or 0488 246 693 or email paulahdvsas@live.com.au. Their brochure is available for download at oneinthree.com.au/s/Hunter_DV_Brochure.pdf.

    I'm a man and experiencing domestic violence (NSW) - A surprisingly good webpage from the NSW Government supporting male victims of family violence. www.dcj.nsw.gov.au/children-and-families/family-domestic-and-sexual-violence/my-situation-is---/i-m-a-man-and-experiencing-domestic-violence.html.

    Men's Domestic Violence Court Advocacy Service (NSW) - Barrister Mario Licha runs a free legal service in Sydney for men going through AVO proceedings. His website is guiltynotguilty.com.au.

    Parent Line (NSW) - Provides parenting support for families coping with domestic violence. Many fathers are struggling to care for children in the midst of domestic violence. Parent Line can help. Their 24/7 telephone counselling and support service for parents and carers offers professional, experienced parenting expertise for 0 to 18 year olds; strategies tailored to meet the needs of families affected by DV; and immediate access to support, 24 hours a day. Call 1300 1300 52 or go to www.parentline.org.au.

    Rent Choice Start Safely (NSW) - a subsidy to provide short to medium term financial help to eligible clients who have experienced domestic or family violence so they can secure private rental accommodation and do not have to return to the violent situation. More information at www.facs.nsw.gov.au/housing/help/ways/start-safely.

    Shared Equity Home Buyer Helper (NSW) - Making home ownership more achievable for victim-survivors of domestic and family violence. www.nsw.gov.au/housing-and-construction/home-buying-assistance/shared-equity

    Think Twice! (Mittagong, NSW) - Relationship abuse prevention and recovery, counselling and programs for couples and individuals experiencing conflict and abuse in their relationships. Call Toni McLean & Associates on 0409 599 887 or go to their website at www.thinktwiceprogram.net.

    Victims Support Scheme (NSW) - Provides counselling, financial support and a recognition payment to victims of a violent crime in NSW. They can help with counselling, financial support, and recognition payments. www.victimsservices.justice.nsw.gov.au.

    Your Court, Your Safety - A guide to going to court and getting help with domestic violence. A useful resource for victims of domestic violence produced by the NSW Government's Crime Prevention Division. www.crimeprevention.nsw.gov.au/domesticviolence/Documents/Publications/your%20court%20your%20safety%20domestic_violence_booklet_web_version.pdf.

  • Louise Spencer (Hawthorne, QLD) - Louise is an accomplished clinician, mediator and therapist who offers confidential counselling services to men who have experienced abuse. Louise is highly skilled and experienced in this realm and is available for consultation and appointments across Australia both in person or via phone or Zoom. Louise works within a safe and nonjudgmental model of care. She can be contacted via www.louisespencer.com.au or 0401 011 181.

    Mensline Queensland - Mensline is Queensland’s free, domestic and family violence helpline for anyone identifying as male, regardless of age, ability, ethnicity, income or religion. Offering counselling, information and referral pathways for men experiencing domestic and family violence. Unfortunately the helpline is likely to be both better informed about and more utilised by male perpetrators, and there are very few services available for them to refer male victims on to. Be prepared to "prove" you are a "genuine" victim. Call 1800 600 636, between 9am – midnight, 7 days. www.dvconnect.org/mensline.

    Shelter for Men Escaping DV (QLD) - Sheltered By Grace is a non-government funded Charity which is an accredited, level 3 Support Accommodation service based in South East Queensland that houses Single Men over the age of 25 escaping Domestic Violence. Call 07 3200 7145 for their intake services Monday to Friday 10am to 3pm. www.sbg.org.au.

  • Family Violence Counselling and Support Service (TAS) - offers professional and specialised services to assist children, young people and adults affected by family violence. Call 1800 608 122 9am - 12am M-F and 4pm - 12am weekends & public holidays or visit www.communities.tas.gov.au/children/family_violence_counselling_and_support_services.

    Huon Domestic Violence Service (TAS) - A free and confidential service to anyone affected by family/domestic violence in the Huon Valley. Call 03 6264 2222 9am - 4:30pm M- F or visit huondomesticviolence.com.au.

    Safe Choices program (TAS) - Provides practical support, advice and referral to support services, for those people experiencing Family Violence. Call 1800 806 189 between 9am and 5pm M - F, text 0448 046 918 (south) or 0439 910 435 (north & north west) or visit www.safechoicestas.org.au.

  • Family Advocacy and Support Services (VIC) - a specialist family violence service that provides legal and social support services to clients affected by family violence in the family law courts. The FASS is made up of lawyers and support workers. Lawyers provide duty services to clients to assist with their family law and family violence issues. There is no cost involved with seeing a lawyer or support service from the FASS. Their lawyers are separate from other Legal Aid VIC lawyers. This means they can provide assistance even if clients are in dispute with someone who is receiving help from another Legal Aid office. Available at Melbourne & Dandenong VIC. www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/get-legal-services-and-advice/free-legal-advice/get-help-court/family-advocacy-and-support-services.

    Orange Door (VIC) - A free service for adults, children and young people who are experiencing or have experienced family violence and families who need extra support with the care of children. orangedoor.vic.gov.au.

    Safe Steps (VIC) - Victoria’s 24/7 family violence response centre. They provide specialist support services for anyone in Victoria who is experiencing or afraid of family violence. Call 1800 015 188 (available 24/7) or visit www.safesteps.org.au.

    Victims of Crime Helpline / The Victims Support Agency (VIC) - The Victims Support Agency is the primary support service for men affected by family violence in Victoria. It is a free service, available by contacting the Victims of Crime Helpline. If you would like confidential advice about options available to you, call 1800 819 817, text 0427 767 891, email vsa@justice.vic.gov.au or visit www.victimsofcrime.vic.gov.au/the-crime/types-of-crime/information-for-men-family-violence-and-abuse-in-relationships. Open 8am–11pm, every day.

  • DVassist (Regional WA) - if you live in regional, rural or remote Western Australia and you are experiencing family and domestic violence, you can access anonymous, confidential, free counselling from a non-government agency. Their phone and web chat counselling services are anonymous, confidential, free and available between 7am and 12am, 7 days a week. Call 1800 080 083 or visit dvassist.org.au.

    Men's Domestic Violence Helpline (WA) - a state wide 24 hour service aimed primarily at male perpetrators, however information and support is also available for men who have experienced family and domestic violence. Unfortunately the helpline is likely to be both better informed about and more utilised by male perpetrators, and there are very few services available for them to refer male victims on to. Be prepared to "prove" you are a "genuine" victim. Call 08 9223 1199 or freecall 1800 000 599. www.wa.gov.au/service/community-services/community-support/mens-domestic-violence-helpline.

    Menstime at Anglicare WA - a program for men providing relationship counselling, support, referrals and relevant and practical groups for men. Their website is at www.anglicarewa.org.au/get-help/relationships-and-separation/menstime.

FAMILY VIOLENCE (INTERNATIONAL)

  • 1523.it (Italy) - runs an emergency phone number 1523 for men, teens and children who are victims of violence, exploitation and stalking. 1523.it.

    Abused Men in Scotland (AMIS) (Scotland) - a national organisation providing support to any man affected by domestic abuse. abusedmeninscotland.org.

    B United (England) - Supporting male victims of domestic abuse in Cambridgeshire. b-united.net.

    Dyn Project (Wales) - Raising awareness and providing support for male victims of domestic abuse. www.dynwales.org.

    Foundation for the Mistreatment of Men (Fundación para la defensa de los hombres maltratados) (Spain) - Helps men who are victims of domestic violence and abuse within relationships with their partners or ex-partners. Offers legal and psychological assistance. fundaciondefensahombresmaltratados.es

    Male Advice Line (Ireland) - for victims of domestic abuse and violence. The advice line, which can be accessed on 1800 816 588, is run by the Men’s Development Network and is open for 36 hours each week from Monday to Friday. mensnetwork.ie/mal.

    ManKind Initiative (England) - a charity that provides a help-line service for male victims of domestic abuse or domestic violence. www.mankind.org.uk

    Men's Advisory Project (Northern Ireland) - MAP exists to provide counselling services for men experiencing domestic abuse. www.mapni.co.uk

    Men’s Aid (Ireland) - Provides a confidential helpline and support services for male victims of domestic abuse and their children. www.mensaid.ie.

    Montgomeryshire Family Crisis Centre (Wales) - Supporting men, women and children experiencing or affected by domestic abuse in North Powys. www.familycrisis.co.uk.

    New Leaf (USA) - Operates two 24-hour emergency shelter and transitional housing program for male and female victims of domestic violence. Services include: a crisis hotline, safe housing, meals, case management, childcare, domestic violence counseling, substance abuse counseling, parenting education, and life-skills classes. www.turnanewleaf.org/services/domestic-violence-services.

    Norda House Project (England) - A confidential support and advice service for men who experience domestic abuse in Cornwall. nordahouse.org/services.

    The Paul Lavelle Foundation (UK) - After the devastating loss of Paul Lavelle in a domestic abuse incident in 2017, friends and family came together to create the Foundation. The Charity was created to raise awareness of male domestic abuse, support male victims and survivors and provide healthy relationship education as a preventative measure. paullavellefoundation.co.uk.

    Respect Men's Advice Line (UK) - Advice and support for men in abusive relationships. Check out their website at www.mensadviceline.org.uk or download their booklet from oneinthree.com.au/s/MAL_booklet_for_male_victims.pdf.

    South Valley Services (USA) - Offers case management and referral services to domestic violence victims and local families using coordination and community response across multiple disciplines. www.svsutah.org.

    Stop Abuse For Everyone (SAFE) (USA) - A human rights organisation that provides services, publications and training to serve those who typically fall between the cracks of domestic violence services: straight men, GLBT victims, teens, and the elderly. They promote services for all victims and accountability for all perpetrators. Check out their website at stopabuseforeveryone.org.

    Valley Oasis (USA) - Their programs provide services to all victims of domestic violence regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, socio-economic status or sexual orientation. www.valleyoasis.org.

  • A quick look at abuse of men by women (USA) - a great short overview of the issue put together by author Ann Silvers. annsilvers.com/products/a-quick-look-at-abuse-of-men-by-women. Ann has also put together a great short YouTube video at www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFbY3Ktd494.

    For Men Affected by Domestic Violence (UK) - A very good resource from the Greater London Domestic Violence Project. Covers issues such as What is Domestic Violence, Are you being abused, Myth busting, What you can do, and Support information. www.menshealthaustralia.net/storage/files/For_men_affected_by_DV.pdf.

    Men Abused by Women in Intimate Relationships (Canada) - An excellent electronic resource published by Alberta Children’s Services, covering such issues as What is abuse, What you can do, and Where to get help. www.humanservices.alberta.ca/documents/PFVB1100-men-abused-by-women-booklet.pdf.

    Serving Male-Identified Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence (USA) - An excellent US resource for professionals working in the DV sector who wish to better serve male victims. vawnet.org/sites/default/files/assets/files/2017-07/NRCDV_TAG-ServingMaleSurvivors-July2017.pdf.

    Stop Abuse For Everyone (USA) - A human rights organisation that provides services, publications and training to serve those who typically fall between the cracks of domestic violence services: straight men, GLBT victims, teens, and the elderly. They promote services for all victims and accountability for all perpetrators. stopabuseforeveryone.org. Download one of their brochures: Male Intimate Partner Violence Brochure, Sibling Abuse Brochure, Elderly Abuse Brochure, LGBT Intimate Partner Violence Brochure or Dating Violence Brochure.

SEXUAL ASSAULT & ABUSE

A comprehensive Australia-wide list of sexual assault services for men is available at www.livingwell.org.au/Counsellingandsupport/Australiawidesexualassaultservices.aspx.

  • SAMSSA (ACT) - A service assisting male survivors of sexual assault offers counselling and support to men over the age of 16, and their supporters, in the ACT and surrounding regions. Call 02 6247 2525 or visit samssa.org.au.

  • NSW Sexual Violence Helpline (NSW) - For anyone in NSW impacted by sexual assault (including friends, families and supporters). Available 24/7 at 1800 424 017 or visit fullstop.org.au/get-help/our-services.

    SAMSN (NSW) - A not-for-profit charity that employs qualified staff and men with lived experience to provide services to male survivors of child sexual assault, their families, and supporters. They offer planned support and counselling, eight-week support groups and monthly drop-in meetings for men, supporters & survivors workshops as well as workshops and training for service providers. Call 1800 4 SAMSN (72 676) or visit www.samsn.org.au.

    Sexual Abuse and Redress Support Service (NSW) - For adult survivors of childhood institutional sexual abuse. Supporting anyone accessing the Redress Scheme and alternative compensation. Available 24/7 at 1800 211 028 or visit fullstop.org.au/get-help/our-services.

  • LivingWell (QLD) - Offers a range of services specifically designed to assist men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse or sexual assault, their partners, friends and family and service providers. Call (07) 3435 4358 or 1300 114 397 or go to www.livingwell.org.au.

  • Yarrow Place is an inclusive service for anyone who has been sexually assaulted and provides a variety of services for people aged 16 and above. Call 1800 817 421 or visit www.sahealth.sa.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/Public+Content/SA+Health+Internet/Services/Primary+and+Specialised+Services/Sexual+Health+Services/Yarrow+Place/Yarrow+Place

  • Centre Against Sexual Assault (TAS) - Offers free and confidential services to men, women and children who have been affected by sexual assault or rape. Call 03 6431 9711.

    Sexual Assault Support Service (TAS) - A free and confidential support service for southern Tasmanian people of all ages who have been affected by any form of sexual violence. They also provide Redress Scheme Support Services across Tasmania. Call 1800 697 877 or visit www.sass.org.au.

  • Centres Against Sexual Assault (VIC) - Counselling and support if you have been sexually assaulted. Call 03 9635 3610, after hours 03 9349 2466, or freecall 1800 806 292 or visit casa.org.au.

    South Eastern Centre Against Sexual Assault (VIC) - Resources for male survivors of sexual assault, child abuse, sexual harrassment and family violence can be found at www.secasa.org.au.

  • 1in6.org (USA) - their mission is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. This includes providing resources for people who care about them. www.1in6.org.

    Male Survivor (USA) - committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism. www.malesurvivor.org.

  • Unhelpful myths about the sexual assault and rape of men - an excellent web resource addressing commonly accepted myths that can make it difficult for a man to publicly name an experience of sexual assault or rape. livingwell.org.au/information/unhelpful-myths-about-the-sexual-assault-and-rape-of-men.

    When a Man is Raped - A useful booklet designed to aid in the understanding about the rape of men, what professional support services are available and what they do, and what might happen if the rapist is prosecuted. www.ecav.health.nsw.gov.au/resources/resource-shop/booklets/booklets#!/When-a-man-is-raped/p/410489590/category=120529583.

    Who Can a Man Tell? - A useful booklet written primarily for adult men who were sexually assaulted as children. It also contains information which may be helpful for relatives and friends who wish to support these men as they confront painful childhood experiences and strive to overcome the influence the abuse has had on their lives. www.ecav.health.nsw.gov.au/resources/resource-shop/booklets/booklets#!/Who-can-a-man-tell/p/410502548/category=120529583.

CHILD ABUSE

Adults Surviving Child Abuse - ASCA is a national organisation which works to improve the lives of adult survivors of child abuse throughout Australia. Call 1300 657 380 for the cost of a local call or go to www.ascasupport.org/. State and territory numbers are as follows: NSW (02) 8920 3611, SA (08) 8388 5661, VIC (03) 9880 7070, QLD 0419 724 561, NT 0408 280 502.

Australian Childhood Foundation - Their website will help you understand more about child abuse and neglect. It will give you ideas about steps you can take to stop it. It will answer many of the questions that you have about the topic. It will also help you to know what to do if you are worried about the safety of a child, a family or are experiencing problems yourself. www.stopchildabuse.com.au 

Kids Helpline - National - 1800 55 1800 - www.kidshelp.com.au

NAPCAN - The mission of NAPCAN (National Association for Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect is to prevent child abuse and neglect and to ensure the safety and wellbeing of every Australian child. www.napcan.org.au

NNAAMI - National Network of Adult and Adolescent Children who have a Mentally Ill Parent/s. Their website is nnaami.org.

Parentline - Provides a telephone counselling service to parents and carers of children aged from birth to eighteen years. Check out their website at www.parentline.com.au. State and territory numbers are as follows: ACT (02) 6287 3833, NSW 1300 130 052, NT 1300 301 300, QLD 1300 301 300, SA 1300 301 300, TAS 1300 808 179, VIC 13 22 89, WA 1800 654 432.

Raising Children Network - The Australian parenting website raisingchildren.net.au

Reporting Child Abuse and Neglect - contact details for all states and territories:

ACT - 1300 556 728 or 1300 556 729 www.communityservices.act.gov.au/ocyfs/children/child-and-youth-protection-services/report-child-abuse-and-neglect

NSW - 132 111 - www.community.nsw.gov.au

NT - 1800 700 250 - nt.gov.au/law/crime/report-child-abuse

QLD - 07 3235 9999 - www.qld.gov.au/community/getting-support-health-social-issue/support-victims-abuse/child-abuse/reporting-child-abuse

SA - 131 478 - www.sa.gov.au/topics/education-and-learning/health-and-wellbeing/child-abuse/report-child-abuse

TAS - 1300 737639 - www.communities.tas.gov.au/children/child_protection_services/what_can_i_expect_when

VIC - 131 278 - https://services.dffh.vic.gov.au/reporting-child-abuse

WA - 08 9492 5444 (WA Police: Child Abuse Investigation Unit) https://www.police.wa.gov.au/Your-Safety/Child-abuse

ELDER ABUSE

The Seniors Rights Victoria Online Elder Abuse Tool Kit can be found at https://seniorsrights.org.au/resources-education/elder-abuse-toolkit

Elder Abuse prevention, advocacy and information telephone numbers for all states and territories:

ACT - Elder Abuse Prevention Information Line 02 6205 3535. www.publictrustee.act.gov.au/images/pdf/ptg-fs-elderabuse.pdf

NSW - Police Assistance Line 131 444 | Seniors Information Service 131 244. www.facs.nsw.gov.au/resources/statistics/ageing-and-disability-abuse-helpline

NT - NT Health Services - 08 8999 2809 | NT Police 131 444. www.hss.gov.nt.ca/en/services/protecting-elders-abuse-neglect

QLD - Elder Abuse Prevention Unit 1300 651 192 or 07 3250 1955. www.eapu.com.au

SA - Aged Rights Advocacy Service - 08 8232 5377 (Adelaide) or 1800 700 600 (rural). www.sa.agedrights.asn.au

TAS - Elder Abuse Hotline - 1800 005 131, Text 0457 806 963. advocacytasmania.org.au/i-need-some-help

VIC - Seniors Rights Victoria - 1300 386 821 or www.seniorsrights.org.au

WA - Advocare Inc - 08 9479 7566 (Perth) or 1800 655 566 (rural). www.advocare.org.au

LGBTIQA+ SUPPORT

  • Another Closet - Domestic violence in gay and lesbian relationships. Their website is at ssdv.acon.org.au.

    QLife - Anonymous, LGBTI peer support and referral on 1800 184 527 or webchat at www.qlife.org.au/resources/chat.

  • ACON (NSW) - They are here to help LGBTIQ people who have experienced domestic and family violence by providing a range of resources and support services. www.acon.org.au/what-we-are-here-for/domestic-family-violence.

    LGBTIQ Legal Advice (NSW) - The Inner City Legal Centre operates the LGBTIQ legal advice service by appointment on Tuesday and Wednesday nights. To make an appointment call (02) 9332 1966 or freecall 1800 244 481. Their website is at www.iclc.org.au/our-services/lgbtiq-legal-advice.

    Rainbow Sexual, Domestic and Family Violence Helpline (NSW) - For anyone from the LGBTIQ+ community whose life has been impacted by sexual domestic and/or family violence. Available 24/7 at 1800 497 212 or visit fullstop.org.au/get-help/our-services.

    Safe Relationships Project (NSW) - The Inner City Legal Centre also operates the Safe Relationships Project (SRP), which can help you with going to court and applying for an Apprehended Violence Order (AVO). The SRP can provide free domestic violence court assistance for people in same sex relationships, transgender and transsexual people and intersex people. To make an appointment call (02) 9332 1966 or freecall 1800 244 481. Check out their website at www.iclc.org.au/our-services/safe-relationships-project.

  • Rainbow Door (VIC) – Free specialist LGBTIQA+ helpline with family violence supports. www.rainbowdoor.org.au.

    VAC (VIC) - Family and relationship violence service for the LGBTI community. Contact intake worker Mon- Fri 9am to 5pm on 03 9865 6700 or 1800 134 840 (free call for country callers) or visit vac.org.au/lgbti-health/relationship-family-violence.

    Victorian Police Gay and Lesbian Liaison Officers (VIC) - Consider talking to a specially trained Victorian Police Gay and Lesbian Liaison Officer. GLLOs are specially trained and are sensitive to GLBTI issues. Call 03 9247 6944 or email melbourne.gllo@police.vic.gov.au.

  • Another Closet - Domestic violence in gay and lesbian relationships. Download their booklet from bit.ly/acssdv.

    LGBTIQ Handbook - The Queensland Government has released ‘Queer without Fear – Domestic and Family Violence in LGBTI Relationships’ LGBTIQ Handbook which may be helpful to you. campaigns.premiers.qld.gov.au/dfvlgbtiq/assets/custom/docs/queer-without-fear.pdf.

    Mensline Australia - Has put together a good tip sheet for gay men experiencing family violence, available at mensline.org.au/family-violence-in-same-sex-relationships.html.

    Say It Out Loud - has helpful articles about healthy and unhealthy relationships in the LGBTQI community. sayitoutloud.org.au.

LEGAL AID

Protection orders are orders of the court that can help to stop violence and intimidation. They are not the same as a criminal charge, but it is a crimnal offence to disobey one. Anyone affected by domestic and family violence can ask the the police to apply to the Court on their behalf to obtain an order. Protection orders have different names in different states and Territories. Please click on your state below to find the details relevant to you: ACT: Domestic Violence Orders, NSW: Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders, QLD: Domestic Violence Protection Orders, NT: Domestic Violence Orders, SA: Intervention Orders, VIC: Family Violence Intervention Orders, WA: Violence Restraining Orders, TAS: Family Violence Orders.

Domestic Violence and Personal Protection Order Unit (ACT) - Has specialist domestic and family violence lawyers who are available to provide you with free legal help every day of the week at the ACT Magistrates Court, regardless of how much you earn or what property you own. Their services include assistance applying for Family Violence Orders, assistance understanding and responding to Family Violence Orders, referrals to non-legal support services, and assistance to access non-legal solutions. For ongoing legal assistance and representation see Applying for Legal Aid at www.legalaidact.org.au/what-we-do/legal-representation.

LawAccess (NSW) - Provides free telephone legal information, advice, referral and assistance to people in NSW. Call 1300 888 529 for the cost of a local call. Plain language legal information resources can be accessed on their website at www.lawaccess.nsw.gov.au.

Domestic Violence Legal Service (NT) - a free legal service for persons who have experienced or are at risk of domestic or family violence in Darwin and the greater Darwin region. Call 08 8999 7977 or visit dvls.nt.gov.au.

Legal Aid Queensland (QLD) - provides a website about domestic and family violence at www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Find-legal-information/Relationships-and-children/Domestic-and-family-violence/What-is-domestic-and-family-violence.

Legal Services Commission (SA) - A legal adviser who specialises in domestic violence is available to assist victims with legal matters where domestic violence is a factor. Appointments may be made by telephoning their Legal Help Line on 1300 366 424 or by visiting lsc.sa.gov.au/cb_pages/legal_advice_dv.php.

Tasmania Legal Aid (TAS) - To get free legal information call 1300 366 611 9am to 5pm M-F or use the Legal Talk chat service at www.legalaid.tas.gov.au/factsheets/family-violence.

Victoria Legal Aid (VIC) - For free information about family violence intervention orders and how they can help you with your legal problem. Call Legal Help on 1300 792 387 8am - 6pm M - F or visit www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/find-legal-answers/family-violence-intervention-orders/get-help.

Legal Aid Western Australia (WA) - Runs the Domestic Violence Legal Unit: a free specialist unit which provides holistic assistance to women, children, and men in same sex relationships that are experiencing or have been impacted by family and domestic violence. www.legalaid.wa.gov.au/find-legal-answers/family/family-violence-and-your-safety/get-help-family-violence-and-your-safety.

IMMIGRANTS & MEN FROM NON-ENGLISH SPEAKING BACKGROUNDS

Translating and Interpreting Service (National) - The Department of Immigration and Citizenship (DIAC) provides this service for people who do not speak English and for the English speakers who need to communicate with them. TIS National is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week for any person or organisation in Australia requiring interpreting services. Call 131 450 24/7 or go to www.tisnational.gov.au/

Family Violence and Partner Visas factsheet - people who are on a Partner visa do not have to stay in an abusive relationship to stay in Australia. More information at www.dss.gov.au/women/publications-articles/reducing-violence/family-violence-and-partner-visas.

RECOMMENDED READING

Domestic Violence:

Domestic Violence Against Men and Boys - Experiences of Male Victims of Intimate Partner Violence - Edited By Elizabeth A. Bates, Julie C. Taylor
Breaking the Silence: A Practical Guide for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse - Dr. Elizabeth Celi
The Abuse of Men: Trauma Begets Trauma - Barbara Jo Brothers
Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence - Philip W. Cook
The Abusive Personality, Second Edition: Violence and Control in Intimate Relationships - Donald G. Dutton
Domestic Violence: The 12 Things You Aren't Supposed to Know - Thomas B. James
Rethinking Domestic Violence - Donald G. Dutton
Venus: The Dark Side - Roy Sheppard & Mary T Cleary
Truth and Prejudice: Men's Experiences of Domestic Violence - Edith Crawford
Women Who Perpetrate Relationship Violence: Moving Beyond Political Correctness - Fred Buttell & Michelle Mohr Carney
Older Men's Business: Valuing Relationships, Living with Change - Jack Zinn (while not specific advice/support for victims of family violence/abuse, this book may be a supportive text for building abused men's self awareness and self efficacy)

Sexual Assault:

Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse - Mike Lew
The Courage to Heal - Ellen Bass & Laura Davis (while this book is written by women for women and does not specifically address men’s issues, it nevertheless is an excellent book about recovery)
The Courage to Heal Workbook - Laura Davis
Broken Boys, Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse - Stephen D. Grubman-Black
Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims Of Sexual Abuse - Mic Hunter
Wounded Boys, Heroic Men: A Man's Guide To Recovering From Child Abuse - Daniel J. Sonkin
The Invisible Wound: A New Approach to Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse - Wayne Kritsberg